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September 26, 2007

Soon There Will Be a Mrs. The Mark

Engagement Ring

Greetings, all! At some point, I’m sure, I’ll no doubt return to recording my thoughts in this online diary in earnest, but now is not that time. However, I would be remiss if I failed to mention here that Julie and I got engaged this past weekend.

I feel compelled to mention it here, of course, because without my diaryland pals to spur me on, it’s possible that I might have given up on love before it had a chance to grab hold of me as tightly as it eventually did. And so, I’d like to thank those diaryland stalwarts of old—hubbabub, lap, saru-san, max, gayla, sera, jumblygiant, mariana, bonypony, and galaxy—for providing me with vital feedback that contained both encouragement and concern during that intensely confusing spring and summer of 2005.

In many ways, this entry feels like the closing chapter of “Mark’s Life with Julie, Part One,” which began here, reached its lowest point here, invigorated everyone involved with a “who would’ve seen that coming?!?” Hollywood-style reversal here, and finally, after much suffering and angst, achieved romantic heights here, with absolutely no looking back since that wonderful, kissy-face-filled day.

Anyway, I asked Julie to marry me while we were visiting the Grounds for Sculpture, a beautifully landscaped 35-acre outdoor museum. I am particularly a fan of this sculpture


because it reminds me of Superman’s homeworld, Krypton (the movie version, that is). Also, check this out:


They have peacocks! How posh is that??

Anyway, that was my weekend. Married bliss is right around the corner.... Thanks, diaryland!

lap I miss you, are you married yet? Do you and Julie have a secret engagement blog I should be reading? Saru is back, ploppy is back, the Mark should be back- although I know there's less to write about when you are actually living your life well. Wednesday, June 18, 2008, 11:37:48 PM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] troisieme YES, i am with you on the "let's get to the party" part of the wedding. good lord, this is turning into one hell of an expensive party, man. we're REALLY trying to cut costs, but it's ridiculous. and then i go off and mention things like "the groomsmen can wear flip flops," and everyone's like, "oh no, they can't do THAT," and i'm like, "why NOT?" and they're like, "you want your pictures to look nice," and i'm like, "no, i want the pictures of ME to look nice." are you getting as many unsolicited opinions as we are? what's the date? may god be with you both. heh. Thursday, January 17, 2008, 7:56:21 PM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] hubbabub Good lord. I leave the country and you go and get all engaged? CONGRATULATIONS! I was just talking about you this weekend cause I was sharing your mix CDs with my foreign friends. I tried to explain how I know you and...they were confused. Anyway, I'm so happy for you. I'll be back in NY for a little bit over the holidays. A crazy time under any circumstances, let alone a brief homecoming, but maybe we can finally get together. -hubbabub ps. Are you calling me old? Monday, December 03, 2007, 4:51:57 AM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] troisieme aw man, thanks for the thanks, and way congrats! geez, i haven't visited your page in so long, i didn't even know we got engaged so close to each other! i'm SO gonna have to go back and read the old entries, the progression through the 'julie' stages! so awesome that you linked those! gosh, can you believe it's been so long since that all started? time really does fly. we're getting married! (better clarify-not to each other, since that's what that sounded like, haha!) big congrats again, and sorry i'm so late to join the congratulatory bandwagon. yay to the life of the mark and the julie! --g Sunday, November 04, 2007, 12:29:22 AM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] Meine-Kleine It's so hilarious to remember you being urged to believe she likes you and now, BAM. Marriage. It makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. Major hugs to the both of you and congratulations! Friday, October 12, 2007, 4:03:34 PM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] theJulie In re-reading this diary, (although many events I seem to remember differently) I am reminded of how you never gave up on us. It is a testament to your strength and also your sensitivity, an unusual combination to reside in only one person. This is what drew me to you and what makes me feel so excited and honored that you picked me to share your life with. This is not the end of "The Mark," but the beginning. May our lives together provide plenty of fodder for your future writing. Monday, October 08, 2007, 3:25:06 PM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] Mariana Congratulations, Mark!!! Such a wonderful story! I remember the beginning, and it is so amazingly cool to see it turn out this way. Here's to many more years of happiness with your sweetie! Wednesday, October 03, 2007, 5:28:56 PM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] saru-san Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you both. And as Lap said, it was great taking that trip down memory lane to see the romance unfolding again. Of course, the second entry you linked back to ("You Were Right, Saru...") kind of draws into question my ability to see what the hell is really going on. I'm glad I ended up being not so right, after all. So, yeah. Hooray for the Mark and the Julie! (And the peacocks!) Saturday, September 29, 2007, 11:16:45 PM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] Mark Holy schnikies--after nothing but cricket chirps for the last 4 months, this diary has had 117 hits since I posted yesterday. I'm glad I'm not the only one enjoying this trip down memory lane; it makes me feel less self-indulgent. Smile Actually, lap, your occasional divergences into Buffy talk helped keep me sane (because really, compared to Buffy's crappy life, mine was going pretty well at the time, y'know?). Annnnd, Jayne is back! Can't tell you how much I enjoyed the premiere of *Chuck*. I'm not ashamed to admit that I'm enjoying *Gossip Girl* too, which is brought to us by the folks who created The O.C. Finally, some fun shows to watch again! Thanks, Max--you are the man. I'm now going to argue for the inclusion of lampshades in all the centerpieces of the reception tables. Huzzah! Thursday, September 27, 2007, 10:14:21 AM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] Max Wow. Congratulations Mark. You better hire security for the wedding - otherwise I'll be crashing in during the vows with a lampshade all up in that mug. Cheers! This bud's for you... P.S. I'm going to have to have a talk with J. Didn't her mother teach her about guys like you?? Smile Thursday, September 27, 2007, 4:16:34 AM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] lap Reading those entries was great. Also, I will admit reading the comments was also great, especially since I talk as much about Buffy as I dispense advice. So what about Chuck? A writer from Veronica Mars is on staff and I don't feel I need to even mention the brilliant casting of Adam Baldwin. Wednesday, September 26, 2007, 10:10:37 PM – Flag – Like – Reply – Delete – Edit – Moderate [This user is an administrator] lap YAY! All I can say is I love it when the good guys ride off in the sunset. Wednesday, September 26, 2007, 2:46:11 PM

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